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Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: From Surviving to Thriving
Healing from narcissistic abuse is not just about “moving on.” It’s about reclaiming your identity, rebuilding your self-worth, and learning how to thrive after someone tried to break you down. The journey is rarely easy, but it is absolutely possible—and you are proof that survival can turn into strength.
Understanding the Wounds Narcissism Leaves
Being entangled with a narcissist often leaves invisible scars:
- Loss of self-trust. Gaslighting and manipulation can make you doubt your reality.
- Emotional exhaustion. Constant criticism, stonewalling, and blame-shifting drain your energy.
- Identity confusion. Narcissists project their insecurities onto you, leaving you questioning who you really are.
Acknowledging these wounds is the first step toward healing. You can’t heal what you refuse to see.
Steps Toward Healing
1.
Rebuild Your Self-Identity
After leaving a narcissist, many survivors feel like a shell of who they once were. Start small—write down who you are outside of the relationship. What do you love? What values do you hold? Each answer becomes a brick in rebuilding the foundation of your true self.
2.
Practice Self-Compassion
Healing isn’t linear. Some days you’ll feel strong; other days you’ll feel broken. Instead of criticizing yourself for “still hurting,” speak to yourself the way you would comfort a dear friend. Compassion heals shame faster than self-judgment ever could.
3.
Set and Honor Boundaries
Narcissists thrive on boundary violations. Healing requires reclaiming your right to say no, to protect your energy, and to surround yourself only with people who respect your limits. Boundaries aren’t walls—they are doors with locks, and you hold the key.
4.
Reconnect with Safe Relationships
Abuse often isolates you. Reach out to trusted friends, family, or survivor communities. Safe connections remind you that you’re not alone, and they provide the love and validation a narcissist could never give.
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Engage in Healing Practices
- Journaling: Write your story to release suppressed emotions.
- Therapy or coaching: Work with professionals who understand narcissistic abuse recovery.
- Mind-body healing: Meditation, movement, and breathwork reconnect you to your body.
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Focus on Growth, Not Revenge
Narcissists want you trapped in the cycle of pain. The best revenge is no revenge at all—it’s living fully, loving yourself, and thriving in a life they no longer control.
From Trauma to Thriver
Healing from narcissism is about more than survival—it’s about transformation. Survivors often discover an inner strength they didn’t know existed. They become wiser, more compassionate, and unshakable in their boundaries.
Your story doesn’t end with what the narcissist did to you. It begins with what you choose to do now—with your healing, your freedom, and your thriving.
Reminder: If you’re on this path, know you are not alone. At Thriving Beyond Abuse, LLC, we stand with you in rebuilding your life and walking into your future as the Thriver you were always meant to be.
My Mission
My mission as a Life Coach is to empower and inspire my clients to live a life that is authentic, fulfilling, and aligned with their values. I believe that everyone has the potential to leave, heal and thrive after being involved in an abusive relationship. I know I will help you grow in confidence, self assurance, self love and most of all, to be the best version of yourself! We can create positive change in our lives, and I am here to support you on your journey towards personal growth and transformation.
My Approach
My approach to coaching is rooted in positive psychology, mindfulness, and cognitive-behavioral therapy. I work collaboratively with my clients to help them identify their strengths, overcome limiting beliefs, and develop practical strategies for achieving their goals. I believe that coaching is a process of self-discovery, and I am committed to providing a supportive and non-judgmental space for my clients to explore their inner world.
My Services
I offer a range of coaching services, including one-on-one coaching sessions, group coaching, workshops and online courses. My areas of expertise include narcissistic abuse recovery coaching, stress/anxiety management, relationship coaching, and personal development. We will incorporate modalities such as meditation, fitness, journaling, etcwant to help you thrive after these difficult relationships.
Contact me today to learn more about how I can help you achieve your goals.
Meet Louella at Thriving Beyond Abuse, LLC
My Background
About Me
Hi, I’m Louella Garcia—a survivor, thriver, bodybuilder, and coach who knows the fight to escape narcissistic abuse isn’t just emotional…it’s life or death. I didn’t just make it out. I rebuilt—body, mind, and soul.
I hold a double-major Bachelor’s degree in Social Work (with an emphasis in Marriage & Family) and Criminal Justice. After a long career in government serving children, families, adults with disabilities, and older adults, I stepped fully into my purpose and founded Thriving Beyond Abuse, LLC. My mission: create a judgment-free, trauma-informed space where survivors—especially women who’ve been silenced, gaslit, and worn down—can safely rise, reclaim their voice, and rebuild on their own terms.
My coaching is rooted in lived experience plus decades of professional service. I’ve walked through chaos, manipulation, smear campaigns, and the slow erosion of self-worth. I know what it’s like to question your reality. I also know what it takes to get your life back—and make it stronger than before.
In my work, we focus on:
- Stabilization & Safety (emotional + practical)
- Reclaiming Identity & Body Confidence (yes, fitness is healing)
- Boundary Skills & Pattern Awareness
- Strength-Based Life Rebuild Plans after toxic or abusive relationships
You are not too damaged, not too far gone, and never alone in this space. You were not meant to just survive. You were born to thrive—and I’ll walk that path with you. We will thrive.
My Healing Journey after an abusive relationship
I have been where you are...Looking for help to escape the claws of an abusive partner. I have researched, read several books, listened to audio books, listened to Youtube creators, social media accounts about domestic violence and narcissistic abusive relationships. In the beginning, I didnt have a clue about this type of personality disorder. At the end of the relationship, I knew that my life had been forever changed. I experienced tremendous emotional and physical abuse. The manipulation and gaslighting was extreme. I have sat where you are, desperate for answers. I am here to help you prosper on your healing journey, thrive and ultimately change your life.
A narcissistic abusive relationship can change you forever. When you enter the relationship, you are a whole person. When you finally break the trauma bond and free yourself, you are a shell of the person you once were. This give us a powerful opportunity to rebuild the awesome life, we've always dreamed of.
My Approach
Every individual has the potential to live a fulfilling and purposeful life. Through lifes challenges, we often lose sight of who we are, our self esteem lessens and our confidence dives. My approach is centered around helping my clients cultivate self-awareness, identify their values and goals, and create actionable steps towards achieving them. I am committed to providing a safe and non-judgmental space for my clients to explore their inner world and work towards their desired outcomes. We will work to identify what and who you are. We will explore your true self and get busy putting in the work. Healing takes intention, mindset change and most of all determination!
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